OUR relationship design 

Creating you Relationship Designbook is based on the idea of not just finding a perfect partner but designing a thriving love relationship. At the core of the design process is considering what brings you joy, not following what other people seem to be doing.

Together as a couple, you put attention and focus on mapping out your hopes, desires, wants, and needs of the relationship and you will end up having your very own Relationship Design guiding you to have the kind of relationship you really want. 

Although the book works on its own, this site has inspiring posts to inspire you along the way. Enjoy!

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RELATIONSHIPs are meant to be about thriving, not just surviving.

-Premise of the relationship design


“Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.”

—Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

START WITH WHY

Movies often tend to end at the perfect proposal or the beautiful wedding. We are left with the idea that if you just find your soulmate, everything else will work out. Focus is therefore on the search of the perfect partner, not creating the most beautiful relationship. Wedding day is often cited as the most important day of the couple’s life and there is enormous effort put into the perfection of it. Nothing wrong with it but what if similar or even bigger effort would be put on planning and designing what your relationship could look like, what it could feel like, and taste like? Not leaving all that to chance but really deciding for yourselves.

 

There is a bit of a contradiction in the common beliefs & sayings that exist. If only you find the perfect partner, everything will be great. On the other hand, relationships are hard, and require a lot of work. Divorce rates obviously speak in favor of the latter belief. As relationships are one of the key factors weighting in on a person’s overall happiness, it should make perfect sense to put a lot of focus on designing it to be an excellent one.

 

Take a Peek into the workbook:

 

 

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Expressing love

Understanding the way both of you express love is key.

 

THE famous 36 questions

The 36 questions were developed by a team of researchers led by Arthur Aron, Ph.D., and Elaine Aron, Ph.D., two psychologists (husband and wife) who have spent decades researching how attraction, intimacy, and romantic love form. The questions work as great date night topics.

 

WHY CREATE BUCKET LISTS as a couple?

Creating bucket lists together as a couple is a perfect tool for creating amazing experiences and memories. Planning and carrying out items from the bucket list increases bonding & intimacy. 

 

 

WHAT SPARKS JOY INSIDE of YOU?